How to Make the Best Spiritual Choices in Life?

Submitted by Open on Wed, 09/06/2017 - 06:53

How you experience and enjoy your life - whether it becomes fulfilling - depends, of course, on the choices you make. How often do you find yourself trying to figure out what's the best choice to make? But what if, at one level - that of the ego - choice is merely a complex illusion of conditioning? And beyond that, what if there's a way of aligning with your soul that then delivers the best choices possible? It's my observation in the Openhand work, then when people break through the illusion of choice that the ego creates, and when they align with the soul's mainstream flow, life really takes off in the most magical of ways: you're constantly blessed with miracles. Here's an exploration then, of how you might make the most aligned choices in life...

The ego is going to do exactly what it's going to do

I put it to you that when one is in the false self ego, choices are actually being made by a complex configuration of conditioned behaviour patterns - a conglomeration of fixed neural pathways in the brain - which work a bit like a computer: based on logic, but also with emotion and karmic filters thrown into the mix. My main point being...


    That in any given situation, when you're in the ego, you are going to do exactly what you are going to do, and although other options and pathways may have been possible, based on your current configuration, it's highly inevitable you'd make the choice you did.

Understanding and accepting that something like this may be going on, when you think and feel into it, can bring with it an enormous amount of peace: it means you can start to let go of struggle. Work to accept that life simply 'happens' by your inner configuration of consciousness - that you manifest, and draw to yourself, exactly what you need at this current place on your journey - which is how The Law of Attraction truly works. When you do accept this, it then changes the focus as to where we might now need to look, in order to arrive at the best choice (defined as the most aligned one).

Regret and Awareness

Accepting that conditioned choices will happen anyway, can also bring with it enormous freedom from regret - about previous choices and pathways that you might have followed...

    If you regret some of the twists and turns your life has taken, you could just simply drop all that right now - you were going to do exactly what you ended up doing. So how ever painful life's lessons might have been, you can simply let go of any sense of regret about what happened. It's a toxic emotion which is best to release. So close your eyes, meditate on them, visualise and see what took place, including who might have been involved. Realise you had no real choice, and completely drop the regret. Come completely into self acceptance through forgiveness, of self, and others.

Accepting the choices you made is important, and bringing awareness into them is vital... why?

    It may appear in your life as if, at times, there's huge complexity - because your configuration of consciousness is complex and interacts with circumstances based on a complicated array of conditioning. However if you bring awareness into all the choices you daily make, then a lot of this complexity will start to naturally fall away, because the inner density that requires some external 'fix' starts to unravel. You find a natural pull to simplify your life.

Making the One True Choice of Life - in any given situation

I put it to you that the soul doesn't make choices as such, because it is not an identity, with an intention to do a particular thing, other than experience itself through the journey of life.


    In the Openhand Approach, the one true choice that we can ever make, in any given situation, is to recognise the rightness of the soul, and then to align with it - in other words, to make the choice of your highest truth, which is always aligned with your soul.

The key is the feeling of 'rightness' - the soul simply flows from the source as a streaming river of consciousness that feels 'right', just as the river flowing down the mountain or the wind blowing through the trees. In this 'one moment of now', the flow can only be spontaneous, although there is consistency in the flow, as one moment shapes into another, and there is direction. This is because the whole of the Universe moves as one - so there can always be just one moment, yet with directional movement.


    So the soul is a streaming flow of consciousness, without intention.
    It's just acting as an expression of being and this shapes the creative path.
    And the most fulfilling, rewarding and authentic choice we can truly make,
    is to align with it!

Choices are an invitation to discover something deeper about yourself

In the Openhand Philosophy, the concept of a choice only really happens where there's confusion about what to do. If there was no internal confusion, the path (of higher self) would become obvious, without need of a choice (other than to align) - rightness simply unfolds and expresses itself in a particular direction.


    The idea of 'Choice' happens where there is some internal convolution - some disharmony. It happens because the flow of the soul within, gets stuck in density, which then manifests alternate possibilities.

So in any difficult choice, you're hitting internal density. In which case, what's really being invited is how to liberate the soul. This happens by realising what expression of soul is now being invited - for example, whether strong and courageous, or soft and surrendering, open and flowing. Just expressing different qualities of soul within a 'choice' will greatly affect the outcome.

If you understand the various qualities that the soul can express, then look for a new expression of beingness wanting to come through - and express that - then the choice of 'rightness' will make itself. In the events that Openhand runs, unleashing the qualities of your soul, always figures highly, because it's what defines a successful and fulfilled life of clarity...
Here is Openhand's view on the various qualities of the Soul

Unraveling the Soul from the Ego within choice

To complicate things, in any given moment, you could have both the false self ego and the soul creating at the same time. Imagine it this way:

    you have a toy aeroplane with an elastic band up the middle which connects to the propellor. You wind up the propellor, which builds twisted knots in the elastic band. When it's fully wound up, you throw the aeroplane into the air, upon which it flies, seemingly with directional purpose. But it is the unwinding of the knots that generates this directional purpose in how the plane flies.

So it is with the ego and soul. As you cease trying to make false self choices based on conditioning (because you're feeling the soul more strongly), then you're bringing awareness to your internal configuration of consciousness and why you do the things you do. Awareness challenges the old conditioning. And so the ego starts to unwind - just like the knots in the toy aeroplane. This provides energetic impetus forwards and the soul takes to flight, expressing itself with grace, lightness and flow, just like the aeroplane.

On the Openhand level 2 course 5GATEWAYS, we help people apply the process Openway to unwind conditioning so as to give wings to the soul.

Feeling liberated and free in your 'choices'

What can we take from all this? How does it make life easier and more aligned?

    It means that you don't have to beat yourself up about the choices! Simply do what you feel to do and then bring awareness to why you did it. If you feel tightness about the choice or sense of doubt or regret, ask: "What was I attached to?" "How did I need it to go a certain way?" Then challenge whether the attachment actually serves you. Does it serve you to be governed by fear and control? Does it serve you to be small?

All of these questions begin to bring you into the abode of The One, which needs nothing from any particular situation, and can readily accept that all situations arose from itself; that the only thing truly going on, is the expression of self - you are self-realising/self actualising through the events and circumstances of your particular flow.

So relax, let go, unwind. Give wings to your soul and let it fly!

You may have seen this video before, but I encourage you to watch again anyway, because I believe it will help feel a greater sense of acceptance, awareness to our choices and sense of free flow...

In loving support

Open
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It likely means that your energy field is flat through some kind of attachment to some density - so potentially you're bleeding energy whilst working to catch the flow. If that resonates, what might you be attaching to? Is there any element of control going on?

Open *OK*

I had a slow leak before going to a Spiritual/Consciousness festival, Kirtan bands and free flowing type of festival and the 2nd slow leak 3 days after?

During the Festival i felt good and i feel like i was able to tap into the energy by meditation a few times. actually walked a Crop circle they had and felt the energy, i medidtated inside the centre and felt the Energy and it was flowing and I felt connected....then as i walked in the Outer circle 1 full turn the ground started to hurt my bare feet, it felt dense, I medidtaed shortly on the outer crop circle and as i walked out of the circle my feet no longer hurt, i felt it was easy and I felt more connected. I dont know what this meant either but i was surprised by the experience as i was expecting nothing.

I will need to meditate and sit in silence and think and feel about your sugestion....Thank you.

The first leak was before the festival - so probably it's more about what's happening in other, regular, aspects of life?

Open <3

i did have a situation at home where i lost my cool and i was very disapointed with this, i did however work my tools, i brought awareness to the experience, I was actually aware while in the process of losing my cool but i could not stop, it was too strong, felt bad a few days but did realize i needed to forgive myself and accept ME as i was, it shook me tho. i did have a few similiar situations after and my reaction was much more aligned i felt... this time my awareness assisted in calming me dowm through the Experience.

not sure if this is what it is but i will continue to Inquire and explore this internally and how my external events unfold.

Much thanks again

Well I find this very interesting how I am sitting in Florida right now with a massive hurricane approaching and all the models say "it doesn't look like she can decide which way she's going yet" ahhhhhh!!!! seriously it's the craziest mirror =). As this storm approached I had eerily strong synchronicities ...including a car coming barreling at me head on yesterday on a two way road...so I felt strongly to get motivated and prepared to leave immediately ...and now I am in the position of I could stay or go - I am perfectly prepared for either path but unsure of the rightness of either as the course is changing and guidance feels like zilch. It looks like the support was to find the drive and focus to get everything together here for me, dog, kids, house and now it's just sitting in this unsureness ...so what to unveil now within myself. I see there is a part of me that wants another adult to come with me to meet the road and all it's challenges right now (heavy traffic gridlocked as the southern part of state evacuates, lots of panic being posted online about gas and water running out, no places to stay)...the other adult (a girlfriend and her kids) is indecisive and swaying toward staying. I feel like I can't stay in this wishy washy zone...have packed a tent and booked a room North of here, have all I need and plan to leave at 5 am tomorrow if it feels right. I know it's not about doing...but if it's about being then it comes down to slowing down, tuning in...there is the pull between patience and direct action and the combination of the two. Also there is fear about getting stuck here. What a learning process this is! With love, Jen

Openhand is out there with you Jen - you're in our hearts <3

Just one thing 'spiked' in what you said...

    "I know it's not about doing...but if it's about being then it comes down to slowing down, tuning in".

There are two ways of 'doing' things: one that comes from the mind, and one that comes from the flow, where being is fully expressed in the doing. Direct right action from the ray 1, is also being! The centre of the storm is absolutely still, yet from that place, it is doing very strongly - it is being a powerful expression of movement.

I observe in the spiritual mainstream there is still very much the confusion that 'being' means doing nothing!

In authentic, pure being, there is always still movement of some kind - is the Universe ever stationary? Wherever there is something phenomenal, where there is something manifest - such as thoughts, feelings and emotions for example - then there is always relativity, and from that, some kind of movement, even if subtle. The stationary part is the absolute pure presence that transcends all - attained through the eye of the storm.

So find the eye of the storm inside yourself. Personally I find it a very cool, calm, collected place, beyond any attachment to a particular action or resistance to one, beyond all emotion. There's no fear, just complete acceptance. Neither is it accepting anything goes. It could also accept strongly direct action.

In this place, the Universe will surely guide right action.
I know it's not easy to be in this place - you have to keep unwinding tightness into it - just as we've been doing all this time. But the mirror is now strong. And therefore the illusion can readily drop away.

I know you'll find the right course of action in your heart.

We're all with you.

Open *OK*

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Hi Open and thank you for the support. I am working with a lot of tightness right now...especially in my head and solar plexus.

You said:
"There are two ways of 'doing' things: one that comes from the mind, and one that comes from the flow, where being is fully expressed in the doing. Direct right action from the ray 1, is also being! The centre of the storm is absolutely still, yet from that place, it is doing very strongly - it is being a powerful expression of movement."

I felt strongly the movement forward and moved with that without any tightness and loads of support and what I see happening is an attachment to where I thought the flow was going and this began tightening things down inside.

Lower mind is getting overly involved in what is coming in because of fears and the vibe around me. Working with that now to unwind it as there is a part of me that wants to keep getting more information before I move forward - there are plenty of preferences of the false self arising.

ohhhh...seeing this is all giving me a peek into a big limitation I am working with which is "I don't want to do this by myself"

Once again - thank you!!

With love,
Jen

Amazing article!

It was helpful for me to sum up the qualities of the Soul mentioned in this article and in the seven rays one. So here it is:

creativity ~ purposeful will ~ harmonises through right resolution ~ balance ~ strength ~ courage ~ surrendered acceptance ~ unconditional love ~ compassion ~ service ~ interprets authentic reality ~ realises abstract higher wisdom/pure knowing ~ understands beyond forms ~ evolution ~ universal flow attunement ~ self expression ~ devotion and commitment ~ direction ~ inspiration ~ positive radiation ~ spontaneous ~ synchronicity ~ openness ~ discipline ~ awareness

I am on the opposite side of the spectrum than you Jen, I believe. I was feeling to evacuate Florida with the storm coming. The signs seemed to support the feeling and within a couple hours I booked flights for me and my kids and flew out the next morning. Now I watch as I second guess myself. Did I move too quickly. Was it right. Will the storm actually affect our area that much or will it go another way. Did I pay too much to fly out. Should I have felt into it more.
Now in Colorado I am noticing that the impacts of the weather are everywhere. There is smoke in the air here due to several wildfires in the US. Over a million acres are burning right now. One thing I did see several times was emergency vehicles with lights and sirens on. I may not get it right and seems like I blow things up when I create but I feel a sense of urgency more than ever.
I don't know how to do it any better than how I feel to Be now. I can't decipher if it's coming from my soul or ego, probably a mix of both at times but I can only move forwards the best way I feel to. I Can appreciate that I was going to make my choice based on where I'm at times but it feels like I am constantly frustrated and wanting to do better. Like I am not bringing enough awareness into my choices and thus keep creating what I perceive to be the wrong. I guess that is working with regret. The article is helpful and I know it's is about expressing beingness within the choices. I am attached to getting it right, coming from my soul, but it's very hard to tell where it's coming from. Everything in my life right now feels like a big fat mess because of the choices I have made and perhaps it is because I am still unable to align with my soul enough.

Hi Kim & Jen - a dramatic situation unfolding indeed. I definitely had the sense of this a couple of years back when working in Florida - I think in the future it will only intensify.

Kim you said...

    "Now I watch as I second guess myself. Did I move too quickly. Was it right. Will the storm actually affect our area that much or will it go another way?"

Remember - what is this really all about?
Self realisation - which is easily forgotten in such intense situations as this.

Maybe the storm won't hit, BUT THAT IS NOT THE POINT.
The point is, what does the possibility cause you to express?
Maybe next time, direct and swift action would save your life - or save others. But how could you be best prepared if there was still tightness around the choices? How could you be flexible and spontaneous enough in the path of the next 'Hurricane'? (in what ever form that comes).

Or else maybe it's about being able to be patient, calm, cool and collected.

IT IS NEVER ABOUT THE OUTCOME - how often have we said this?

The 'right' choice - defined as that which best unleashes your soul, is to recognise a sense of arising 'rightness', to trust in that and go with it.
As you move with that flow, watch for any tightness of the ego trying to own it - like for example wondering if you made the right choice, which is a distortion. Make the choice, step into it, and work to dissolve any doubt or regret - the choice is made!

If you're unsure you did make a fully aligned choice, simply 'wipe the slate clean' inside and begin again. Open up, feel, ask "show me" - then pick up the next flow of rightness.

If you're learning and expanding as a soul, then you're succeeding.

Open *OK*

For me, the challenge is to finding and staying in the eye of the storm no matter what may come. Because when you are outside of this place (i like to call it a black hole), even spiritual "stuff" becomes just another stuff that distracts but by spiritual/shadow identity. It is like these embedded neuron paths or conditioned behaviors click in and it doesn't matter where it is coming from the soul or otherwise. I feel like it takes deep awareness and a lot of letting go before i can truly stay in the presence of my Higher Self. I will keep working on it ...

I recall being at an airport once, where whilst waiting for my plane, the flow clearly invited me to change my ticket - 3 times! I was unsure at first, but after each occasion, where I responded positively, the synchronistic 'applause' all around me was so strong it felt like a whole orchestra was playing just for me. I have no idea what might have happened with the other three flights, how my changes would have affected the flow - who knows, with such increased internal flexibility, maybe next time I'll avoid a crash?

Just a few weeks back, I was at a terminal, sitting waiting for a long queue at the gate to board, before taking my turn. But then a pull guided me to leave the queue and to follow a couple of people I felt an energetic connection to. Of course it didn't seem to fit in the 3D world of logic. Nevertheless, I went with the flow. As it turns out, unknown to me, my gate had been changed, and by following the people, I walked straight onto the right plane just as they were closing the door!

With these dramatic events that are now on the increase, we will be tested in the most powerful of ways - because here are the opportunities for maximum personal growth.

Open *OK*

Omg that's very crazy - in a good way, of course. :)

What about actions that are linked to a daily routine? For example, brushing our teeths after each meal. It always feels right to me to do it, but maybe it's a conditioning!
When we fully attain the flow do our actions become totally diffent in each day or there's still some kind of routine?

Thank you

Wow Open that is some intense and commitment to following the Flow! Changing a ticket 3 times and then pulling out of a line up to take your flight! Dang…having experienced the Airport intensity going to the Seattle retreat a few months back and making sure one does not miss a flight That takes a lot of ….well for lack of a better word FORTITUDE!

Thank-you once again for a real life experience that we can Integrate the work and guidance you provide <3

Hey Eduardo - we have to be very careful of routines because that's where we easily become unconscious. What I work with is the ray 4 - which is about blending into different - lower - realities. So the ray 4 naturally respects the requirements - and limitations - of this physical reality. There can be beneficial patterns yes, but it's also important to keep deeply conscious in them - how do they want to change and evolve?

Hey Steve - there will come a point when one realises that only the flow is ever going to completely fulfill your soul. And although it may seem sometimes like you're 'losing' (losing resources because you change flights), in the long run, by being aligned in the flow, you always attract exactly the resources you need.

In holding onto things, there will never be enough.
But when you genuinely give something out from the soul,
what you give, will always come back.

Open *OK*

Feeling you Jen from the place we are side by side.
Do you Remember We felt the same energy enter the studio?
from that place.
I feel to say come from there.
That's the eye of the storm.
Consign the mind thoughts to their useful place - serving from the solar plexus -
Feel from there and let right action arise
And then act. Let mind then support logistics.
By your side
Much Love
J x

This post is such a mirror for me. I'm also trying to decide whether or not to evacuate from the hurricane. I have been feeling the urge to go but I have one child at school in south Florida and one in north Florida. I was trying to plan how to get everyone together and to a safe place. Interstates kept getting more congested, gas scarce, hotels booking up, and my son's university was putting off the decision of closing or not. Then the question of where to go because hurricanes can shift and I could evacuate my family to someplace unsafe. All this time my spouse stayed absorbed in work and seemed to be ignoring the whole situation. And all this time I was assuming once I figured out the logistics we would evacuate as a family.

Thursday I decided the best decision was to fly to stay with relatives. The feedback I got back was shocking. For various reasons everyone in my family was refusing to leave. The internal conflict became immense. The pull to go and the guilt of going by myself and leaving everyone else here became too much. I felt like I would be abandoning my children in a time of potential danger when I have been trying to protect them since before they were born. Up until then I was able to stay relatively calm, now the anxiety was overwhelming. The guilt of putting my needs ahead of my family has been an issue I have been working with for a long time so it's really not a surprise that it's showing up in a big way now.

On Friday I made a huge personal decision and decided that everyone in my family is an adult and while I have to respect their decision not to leave, I need to do what's best for me. But I was second guessing myself and feeling very conflicted. That's when I felt the pull to check this forum. Reading this thread brought me to a place of clarity and I booked my flight. I can't get out until Sunday which may be too late. And even if I can leave there is still the big step of actually getting on the plane while leaving my family here.

Open when you said Remember - what is this really all about?
Self realisation - which is easily forgotten in such intense situations as this.

I have been knowing that but for me it's like a person in the beginning stages of dementia. They know it's happening but aren't able to prevent it. All the work I've done on myself helped until I got to the place of having to leave my children behind. Then it all fell apart.

Open you also said Maybe the storm won't hit, BUT THAT IS NOT THE POINT.
The point is, what does the possibility cause you to express?

That comment gave me my huge ah ha moment. This is the first time (maybe ever) I have been able to put my desires/needs ahead of my family. A huge step for me. Maybe it will be too big of a step for me to get on the plane even if it is still able to leave. I am able to be ok with myself even if I can't get on the plane because just buying the ticket is more than I've ever been able to do. I may have a lot of second guessing moments between now and Sunday in all of this but I guess that is part of my process at this point.

Much love and gratitude,
Ann

Hi Ann,

Such a brave sharing and experience. Yes it's tough, I know. And yes, just buying the ticket was a powerful step in itself. So in the days ahead, keep working through whatever tightness comes up - there will likely be many layers, with different essences to them - work through each that presents.

This line stood out strongly...

    "everyone in my family is an adult"

Yes, that's entirely the point!

I've seen solid advice out there that says leave. Why would one not? What reason not to go? Unless someone literally can't leave that could potentially protect.

We'll all with you Ann - keep working through. I know it's tough, but these times come along because they offer the maximum opportunity for internal growth in the choices you're invited to make.

Sending bundles of love and support

Open <3

Hi Open,

A wonderful article. For me, a possibility has presented itself on my landscape, that feels like a huge change, a complete turn around of my life (again!) and I've been asking the Unvierse to show me the right outcome. I'm very grateful to have been guided now to read this article :)

This in particular stood out "the one true choice that we can ever make, in any given situation, is to recognise the rightness of the soul, and then to align with it". I have been very aware of this today and so your article was a beautiful affirmation. For me, it feels to be about the energy and exploration for now and when the time comes a direction forward may become clear. In the meantime, there is an invitation to be patient, surrender, enjoy the process and learn along the way.

It's also been useful to be reminded through the discussion that it is always about self realization. Thanks Jen and Kim <3

With thanks, Fiona